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We've been friends with a woman, who has overcome many hardships, which I admire. Yet, she has been constantly blindsided by people. Her husband left her, which came as a huge shock. A lot of her social circle disappeared then, as they were only interested in him. It shocked her. She put in greater energy to be my friend, and must have understood more acutely what friendship was.

A Recurring Theme With Friends Drifting Away

Throughout this period, several close to her vanished leaving her knowing the cause. Her previous job suddenly changed toward her, despite the fact that she was very skilled at her work, she departed not understanding why things shifted.

How Things Stand Now

In recent times, we have each left the workforce so we're spending each other more, yet I realize my position in our friendship is as the audience. I start topics of conversation only for her to redirect them to what interests her. Regarding political views, she expresses unyielding views. I attempt to propose double-checking information and alternate views.

She has been organizing a trip abroad I have traveled to many times even called home for a while. My intention was to provide personal experiences, however, my input not welcomed. She essentially solely sought me to confirm her plans. I recently returned from 30 days there and she wants to meet, however, I hesitate.

Weighing the Options

I hesitate to be a friend that walks away abruptly, yet I doubt she'll truly comprehend the consequences of her actions on my self-esteem. At this point, my state is distancing myself. What's the best step?

Potential Solutions

It's possible to walk away, however, that approach is seldom the easy answer that we desire. But confrontation with a view to a solution demands strength and willingness on both your parts.

Experts suggest trying a practical approach to handling disagreements:

"The first step involves describing what typically happens during your discussions. Aim for this to be based on facts and essentially an unbiased account. Step two involves sharing her how it leaves you feeling. There should be no dispute on this point. Your feelings belong to you, of course. Finally involves requesting how the two of you will alter the interaction between you."

Consider that she also has a point of view, thus requiring you to be prepared to listen to her. A helpful technique is telling to the other person:

"It's your turn to speak while I will listen without interrupting for a set time."

It's wildly successful for promoting better communication.

Key Takeaways

Your friend could ignore everything, as some people cling to a “survival narrative”: they rely on a version regarding their experiences they're unable to abandon because their very survival relies on it and it's all they trust. This is difficult as there is no thoroughfare with these people, only cul-de-sacs. But she may initially present this way and then think your perspective. If you don't achieve an agreement, it provides peace that you've been open and direct.